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Language and Separation from Each Other

Our minds are limited by the definitions of the words and concepts of our language.  The English language is an object-oriented language while most indigenous language are connection oriented languages.  In an object-oriented language, our focus is on an object, not on the inter-relationships between the object and us, or between each other or between different objects even if they are part of nature like a tree and a bird.  Our orientation to problem solving is one of finding one answer to any problem that we have.  Then we make our answer the only right answer and everyone else is wrong.  Get the drift?


Our language perpetuates the sense of separation from others, from nature, even as we experience an interaction.  What to do about it?  Well, you can start by changing some of the words that might be a normal part of your daily conversation.  Start using ‘both/and’ instead of ‘either/or’.   When wanting to describe something or someone as ‘right/wrong’ or ‘good/bad’, look at it from different directions and look for the commonalities.  Start looking at the multitude of answers possible for any problem.  Going deeper, imagine how you are part of any circumstance that you think is a problem.  Not all of them you say?  There is always a connection.  Yesterday I heard a speaker talk about the small discriminatory acts that he tolerated everyday in his daily life.  Don’t we all have those?  The homeless person on the street that we won’t even give a dime to.  The mother struggling with groceries and a small child that we just walk by.  The child crying from having fallen and again just walking by.  Leaving a common area that we frequent a mess because ‘we didn’t make the mess’.  Not saying something to someone who litters or leaves their dog poop on the common land. 


We are all members of one society.  We need to start to act as if we are all one.  The parking lots and parks are our responsibility as much as the landlords or the city’s.  The laundromats and stores are ours as well.  We are community and we each should see our relationship in that.  If you ignore your relationship to another, you are ignoring part of your own life.  Everything is connected.  We are all responsible in some way for how this world functions.  I may not be able to stop the killing in Syria AND I can act to sooth a child, clean up a park, be kind to those who have less than I do.  Everything is connected. 

This is a time that many are standing up for their truth.  Walking in marches, writing and calling their delegates. That is important part of this wholeness that we are waking up to.  Just as we take responsibility for our common property in our towns, we take responsibility for the common good for the nation.  Remember my earlier comment about putting aside ‘right/wrong’?  Well now is the time to listen to those who have different ‘conclusions’ or ‘answers’ and find common ground.  There will always be diversity in response to any situation just because we are different people with different life experiences.  That ‘difference’ does not have to make us enemies needing to impose our ‘answer’ on others. 

This is the time to pay attention to what we have in common so that we can recognize the ‘wholeness’ of what humans are.  We are one in body, mind, spirit.  We were designed to live in unity with each other, with nature and with our Source who created us.  Now is the time to come back to our original design and put ‘all of us’ before ‘me’ in all our conversations.  Together we can rise to a new reality  of unity, harmony and empathy.  Change your language and change not just your future, but humanity’s future as well.

Elektra Porzel is the Director of The Creation Institute, as well as a coach and spiritual mentor.  For more information about the Language of Creation, go to www.iuwcinstitute.com/language-of-creation/.  Elektra’s website is www.Intuitivehealingcenter.com.